SMALL GROUPS ///
They are great! They provide a time when you can get together with individuals who are around the same age, stage of life, and interests. You can all share about what is happening in your personal lives, while in the same breath, relate to one another. It's fluid. It's natural. It's a great idea... until it isn't.
Have you ever been a part of a group that you felt was already really connected? Did you feel like the puzzle piece that was shaped like a triangle while the space you were to fit in was a square? How about you helped start a group and then everyone would come so inconsistently that you could never actually go over anything or get any deeper than face value?
I don't know about you but... I have been in all of these groups.
I have always assumed it was me. Sometimes I can be awkward and quite (if you know me- you know I am far from quite! But at first I feel very uncomfortable in my own skin).
I started to learn that other women felt the same way and it wasn’t just me. They would take the risk, go for the first time to a group, feel "okay" about it, go again and then just fade away and never come back for many different reasons. The over arching reason? It just didn’t feel right. It didn’t click
Why is that?! Why can't we connect with people who are OUR AGE, in OUR STAGE OF LIFE, and have very SIMILAR INTERESTS AS US?!
And then it hit me.
What seems to be the biggest miss in groups like this is the concept of "spilling your guts" before actually building a firm foundation of friendship. Seems simple right? If it was so simple then why have most of us had this experience when entering a new small group setting?
So now that we have identified the issue what is the solution?
Small groups should dedicate the time to build a firm foundation built around authentic and genuine friendship and the rest will evolve naturally.
I think about being a small child playing on the playground and how easy it was to make friends. You're swinging next to another girl or boy your age or go down the slide together and become instant friends. It's easy and it's nothing fancy. You both are doing something together and it happens naturally.
I also think about being in high school and suddenly gaining my independence by learning how to drive. I remembering suddenly being able to FINALLY meet my friends for coffee whenever I wanted. That feeling of independence was basically sheer bliss as a high school student. I remember going to my favorite coffee shop, sipping a warm almond milk latte while discussing heartfelt topics. I remember that my teenage heart needed those sweet moments with good friends. Conversation like that always reminded me of an onion. Each meeting peeled back a new layer and understanding that I learned about my friend along with something new that was revealed to me about myself. Moments like this were so valuable to me then and now.
With all of this to be said I firmly believe it is so important for women to be a part of a strong supportive community.
I've decided to help in this venture in a very small way. I created a social media platform called SHARE. It is a closed Facebook group that women can invite their friends to. It is a place to ask fun questions as well as serious questions. It is a place for women to be open and vulnerable and to meet other women just like them. But it couldn't just stop there. It had to go deeper. This is why I created the SHARE. videos.
The two main principles behind the SHARE. videos are these:
1. A shared experience (like the swings)
2. Deep questions that help peel back those onion layers.
Each video delves into a fun activity that anyone can create. During the act of creating something together there is a series of three questions asked to each participant. The questions are designed specifically to help peel back those "onion layers." Each person brings $20 to your house and let's say a dish to share (cause who doesn't want some food?!). Suddenly your house if filled with women you love, tasty treats, and the opportunity to make something together all while growing in deep rich community with one another.
Interested in learning more about my SHARE. videos? Check them out here!
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