Who doesn't love girls night? After a long week of to-do lists, endless laundry, early morning work commute, getting the kids out the door, and millions of other things, you deserve a moment for yourself. You deserve time with other women who are at the same stage of life as you to compare notes, relate to one another and sympathize with what your joy, pain, and gladness. I am passionate about strong community. In one of Jon Foreman's songs, he states: I want to thrive not just survive. That is what I want for you. I want a community that helps you thrive not just survive.
You may be thinking to yourself, "Okay, okay! But how Sydney? How do I find a thriving community to pour into/ be filled up by?" Here are my 4 different ways of building a thriving community:
1. Find women you admire
When you walk into a room filled with people you find yourself instantly drawn to certain people. For whatever reason, we find ourselves on the lookout for natural born leaders, or maybe confident people, or even adventurous people. I'm telling you right here and right now look for a woman you ADMIRE. This lady is probably confident in who she is. She doesn't care about what other people think of her. She is kind, generous, and has healthy boundaries. Maybe she is a religious lady and/or stands up for what she believes in. Whoever she is, she is someone you look up to even if you are peers.
2. Join a community group
Joining a community group is a great way to meet new people. There are several different types of groups you can join. Maybe it is a church group, sewing club, a book club, etc. The beauty of joining a group that is already formed is you are instantly integrated into a group of individuals who enjoy similar things. This group is a great way to meet new friends. Maybe these groups aren't for forever but you may find at least one lasting friendship in this group. If that's so, then I would qualify that as a win.
3. Own your group
Ownership is so key. When you have a group of individuals who meet on a weekly or monthly bases but there isn't any ownership, then the group becomes wishy-washy and the group fades away. If you own your group (and other individuals in the group also feel a sense of ownership) then you WANT/NEED it to succeed. You desire for the group to thrive not just survive. How do you have ownership? Maybe you host the group once a month at your house. Maybe you plan one fun night a month or you try to meet with each lady in the group one-on-one every couple of months. Maybe you remember what each lady is struggling with and ask how they are doing each week. Ownership looks different for everyone, but I honestly believe it is one of the most important aspects of a lasting community.
4. Ask the hard questions
Holding each other accountable - even in the hard stuff - is so important. Ask hard questions and follow through. No one likes asking those awkward questions about how are you doing REALLY? What is really going on with you? Is there anything I can do to help? After you ask a hard question, follow through. Be there for that person when they need help. Maybe they have to move, need a shoulder to cry on, someone to rejoice with, or even good ol' fashion advice. Be there for a person and they will be there for you when you need them.
The SHARE. videos, that I am so passionate about, are centered around the idea of building a THRIVING COMMUNITY. In need of a good fun gals night? My June SHARE. video is FREE. Invite the ladies over and create a fun art project together while building a thriving community one step at a time.